Monday, 14 January 2019

Taking Ownership Of Your Online Space


As the new year rolled around, I started mentally preparing myself for January. Because January is a lot. It is a month of newness - a fresh start to set goals and reflect on what has passed over the last year. But it is also the month that diet culture really goes full force and, unfortunately, it is the month that leaves me feeling a bit rubbish about myself and my body. So, I was preparing myself for an influx of salad pics on Instagram and quotes on Twitter about how 'summer bodies are made in winter' and what actually happened shocked me. I didn't see one mention of dieting. There were no lettuce leaves in sight as I scrolled through Insta (only Body Posi Panda dancing around like the absolute babe that she is) and Twitter was much more concerned with Chrissy Teigen getting walloped in the face with a brolly to even notice that a new year had rolled in. 

Then I started to wonder what was going on. Had diet culture finally died? Had detox teas been banned? Had we all finally got to the stage where the size of our bodies isn't that big a deal anymore? Perhaps - I still haven't seen any January diet posts online - but the more likely explanation is that I have been having a bit of a detox of my own.




Instead of wasting money on repackaged laxative powders and horrible green juice, I have spent the past year or so detoxing my social media platforms. I unfollowed, muted, and blocked to my heart's content in order to remove any negative energy from my online spheres. Anyone who made me feel in the least bit bad about my body was automatically gone. Even people who I constantly seemed to compare myself with were removed. Any account that didn't help me on my journey to being ok with just being me had to go. I replaced fitness gurus and clean-eating influencers with body positive role models - and I am finally feeling the benefits of that.

The thing is, by following someone on social media, we are almost inviting them into our headspace. Their content is what we see whenever we log onto our favourite sites and, much like if someone was a guest in your home, you need to feel comfortable with them. If their content upsets you or makes you feel like you're not good enough then you have every right to ask them to leave. You own that space. You wouldn't let a dinner guest make you feel bad about yourself and then invite them back to do it again every day so why should it be any different online.

Taking ownership of my social media sites was probably one of the best things that I did in 2018. And I would advise everyone else to do the same. 


Outfit:
Jumper: Primark (similar)
Body: Miss Selfridge (similar)
Jacket: Topshop (similar)
Trousers: H&M (similar
Necklace: Voice International (here)*
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9 comments

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  2. Riveting post! I like the comparison of inviting someone to your home is the same concept of choosing who to follow on social media. You are so right, we should fill our feeds with content that motivates us to be better not to compare our selves and feel bad that we're not like someone we see on Insta. Great post!

    Natonya | https://www.justnatonya.wordpress.com

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  3. Brilliant post. I think now with social media it's so easy to compare yourself to others or allow other people to get into your head. Blocking and muting those who are making you feel anything other than positive is so worth doing, I've felt so much better since having a bit of a social media clear out too! x

    Tiffany x www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

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  4. I adored reading this blog post because I feel like it is very pressing at the moment!

    Danielle xx
    https://www.fashionbeautyblog.co.uk/

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  5. THIS is so important! I think we could all do with taking ownership of our online space, if I don't like your feed? I'm not following back, I'll comment on your posts if I feel like I can leave a genuine comment, even if I'm in a comment pod, its not by force!

    This is such a great post Lauren and one I think more people need to see! Definitely RTing this to my followers. Can't wait for the rest of your content this year!

    Fran | www.franciscarockey.co.uk

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  6. I totally agree with you! Everyone needs to protect their head space and it's totally okay to unfollow or mute people that contradict that. It's also the same reason why I wouldn't be upset if someone unfollows me or something. I've been doing a lot of muting lately, especially on Twitter! xx

    Coco Bella Blog

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  7. I loved this post! I only follow people that I want to follow now. I don't follow anyone because they're a 'big blogger' and I feel like I have to. Anyone that makes me feel bad about myself or anyone who pisses me off has been unfollowed!

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  8. What a great post with great message in it! I recently re-doing and re-following the people on my personal Instagram just so I can take a breath and manage my online space better!

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  9. I think this is so important! It's something I've started to do this year to try to make my online zone a happier space and I'm feeling so much better for it

    Steph - www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

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