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An Ode To IRL Friends

For as long as I have been blogging, I have wanted to have 'blogger friends'. Yknow the type that you meet up with to shoot outfit pictures and get brunch and discuss 'how to beat the algorithm' Instagram strategies. I wanted that Louise and Zoe circa 2013 friendship. And I have made a few online friendships over the last few years that I do value very deeply - and, despite not actually meeting any of these people in person, I consider these online friends to be true friends.

But, when I was dreaming of meeting my blogging girl gang, I wasn't seeing the value of the friendships I already had. I didn't appreciate how awesome it is that the friends I have don't use social media all that much and how that keeps me so much more grounded. Meeting up with my IRL friends forces me to live in the moment more and not have to think of putting it on insta stories or getting that perfect outfit shot.

As much as I am so far from one of those people who complain about people using their phones in social situations - I mean, I basically live on Twitter - it is nice to have time away from it all without anyone just checking their emails. It is something of a revelation to go for a whole meal and not take a photo of anything or spend a whole day exploring a new town without taking a few snaps for Instagram. And I do get that worry that I will forget these times because I haven't documented them but I also know that I won't forget them because they are so much more special to me because they weren't lived looking at a screen or through a lens.

As a blogger, I feel like my world has become very much centred around the internet and being constantly available to reply to emails or DMs or comments or mentions is a big part of what it is to be a blogger. But, because this world is accessible 24 hours a day, it can be difficult to switch off. I find myself picking up my phone when I don't even need to and scouting for outfit picture locations when I am just going to buy some milk. I feel like I am always on. But my friends help me to get out of that routine. They give me a reason for not having to scroll through Instagram for another twenty minutes. And I have come to realise that I don't need to be on all the time. If I let a DM sit in my inbox for a day, the earth won't spontaneously combust and cause the whole of mankind to perish. People get it - they understand that even bloggers have lives outside of social media.

Of course, I would still have to be part of a blogger girl gang to go to Peggy Porschens with but I am also really appreciative of the friends I already have and what I have learnt from them. They're pretty fantastic.


  1. Those friendships where you don't even think about your phone all day are so important!
    Kate x

    1. Exactly! I have really grown to appreciate them this year x

  2. Replies
    1. Yes! I love having blogger friends who understand the whole blogging world but also friends I can totally switch off from that world with

  3. Such a lovely blog post, friendships are something that we should really treasure!

    Danielle xx

    1. Awh thank you! And yes, you're right. Friendship is so important

  4. Couldn't agree more with this! My IRL friends definitely keep me in the moment and off my phone.

  5. We're pretty lucky to be able to have both lots of friends really, aren't we?!

    Lucy |

    1. Yes! Definitely, I've grown to value my friendships so much more as I get older

  6. It really doesn't matter how many friends people have as long as they are genuine true friendships!

    Happy New Year!

    Mariya |


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